Christmas lights + Shake Shack + colors = happy lunch break!
I hope I’m going to look back on this period in my life and remember the following:
- That I was young…
- … and doing ethnographic interviews on the streets with random strangers who would show me videos of them lip syncing Ave Maria or solemnly share that they were fired from their jobs.
- How I watched a black nanny carefully explain to her young white charge who Nelson Mandela was (RIP).
- That I would come home each day with my feet sore but my heart slowly feeling better, incrementally becoming more and more convinced that I would be ok.
December 3, 2013 at 11:02pm
Mourning, even for the resilient, is a study in extremes, and, for the family and friends filling out our house, the crescendos were violent. We would scream at each other, and then laugh over wine, and then scream some more, and back to the wine. Grief is not a steady process, Bonanno said, but rather an “oscillation,” like everything inside of us. Muscles tighten and relax, our bodies warm and cool, and so do our tempers.
8. You are better off without some people you care about.
It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you. Notice who sticks around and who doesn’t, and be grateful to those who leave you, for they have given you the room to grow in the space they abandoned, and the awareness to appreciate the people who loved you when you didn’t feel lovable.
Bottom line: Be okay with giving the gift of your absence to those who do not appreciate and respect your presence.
10 Harsh Realities that Help You Grow
Sometimes you’re the person who’s better off, sometimes you’re the person who someone else is better off without. Fact of life.
December 2, 2013 at 10:17am
Breakfast of Champions
Carrots, mushrooms, and green tea while I sit at my desk this morning, writing and planning.
December 1, 2013 at 9:53pm
Sunday Work Nights
The upside of working late on Sunday nights? I get to sit in fluffy pink socks and a long nightgown while designing an ethnographic UX research project.
Press on. Nothing in the world can take the place of persistance (via @everest). #determination #energy #nts #poster
Life is remarkable.
November 27, 2013 at 1:00pm
Just Do It
You tie my hands, what am I gonna be?
What have I done so bad? What is my destiny?
You tie my hands, what am I supposed to see?
What have I done so bad? What am I gonna be?
And if you come from under that water then theres fresh air
Just breathe, baby, Gods got a blessin to spare
Yes, I know the process has so much stress
But it’s the progress that feels the best
Cause I came from the projects straight to success
And youre next, so try, they cant steal your pride, it’s inside
Then find it and keep on grindin
Cause in every dark cloud theres a silver linin’, I know
November 26, 2013 at 2:10pm
In the immediate aftermath of Westgate, I didn’t know what to do with myself. All I did was cry- alone, with friends from Nairobi, with friends from New York City.
About three days after the attack started, I pulled myself out of bed at 2 PM, finally showered and got dressed, and took a walk through Central Park.
It was beautiful and sunny that day, with just a tinge of fall setting in. I walked aimlessly through the park and ended up stumbling across this band performing live. They were beautiful, incredible live, and I was suddenly overcome with a sudden rush of being alive and there to experience it all.
I bought their CDs even though I couldn’t afford it. And every now and then, I sit and listen to this song and marvel over how for a moment I felt light and good, in the midst of such immense tragedy, on that beautiful fall day.
November 25, 2013 at 8:00am
Maybe we mistakenly think we want ‘happiness,’ which we tend to picture in very vague, soft-focus terms, when what we really crave is the harder-edged intensity of experience.